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The Not Really a Blog Blog
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Ted Greshsam, September 27, 2025 Hey, you want some coffee? A few weeks ago, my wife bought me a coffee pot that uses those little K-cups. It was a financially bad idea. Now I drink more coffee and it costs more per cup. Sucks, huh? As if you give a shit about my coffee. Something…
Ted Greshsam, September 11, 2025 Not related to anything else, but you know, it still bugs the shit out of me to put 2025 on my page as the year. What the fuck happened to all those years? Oh well, never mind. We continue to have a fucked up country. Watch all the news and…
Ted Gresham – August 2025 I am one of the best goof-offs in Texas. I blow days without even batting an eye. Today, I was floating some ideas in my head, but not getting very far. I’m trying to find access to information about when I was a kid in school and some of that…
Ted Gresham – August 2025 Hello, neighbor. Here I am again. Now, remind me why I’m here⦠oh yeah⦠I just placed my books on the main page of this website. I want you to buy my books. I want you to read them. I want you to feel excited, enthralled, heartbroken, and experience all…
Ted Gresham – August 2025 It’s getting easier to skip past all of those damn political YouTubes.Clearly the country is going to hell. People are being killed and destroyed. But there’s nothing I can do about it.It’s up to those who are younger and stronger to stand up or not. My wife and I will…
Ted Gresham – July 2025 The conclusion of my ‘what the hell’ page went so: “Anyway, thanks for stopping by early. Bookmark and come back. You will be glad you did.” Will you? Hell, I don’t know. I hope so. It’s a slow slog trying to write out my bio. not only is it long…
Ted Gresham – July 2025 There’s something wrong. Time will NOT slow down! What the fuck? I can’t seem to keep up. It’s like I am moving through a fog of molasses. Arg. I have not gotten nearly as far as I have wanted to. I still have loads of pictures to sort out, all…
Ted Gresham – July 2025 Today I am torn between the desire to be political, the need to start actually riding my biography, Or the necessity of searching through the photographs that I have scanned. Politics would rule my life if I let it. It would also rip me apart. I had to quit but…
In Buddhism, attachment does not mean love, affection, or caring about people. Instead, it refers to a very specific mental habit: clinging ā the tight, grasping insistence that things, people, or experiences must be a certain way for us to feel secure.
Buddhism teaches that this clinging is a major cause of dukkha (suffering), because everything is impermanent ā and trying to hold on tightly to what constantly changes inevitably leads to pain.
Attachment is:
Buddhism identifies four main types of attachment:
These forms of clinging keep us stuck in the cycle of suffering and rebirth (saį¹sÄra).
Attachment is not:
Buddhist teachers emphasize that you can love deeply without clinging. Love becomes suffering only when it turns into fear, control, or dependency.
As one source puts it:
āBuddhism does not ask you to stop holding. It asks you to stop squeezing.ā
Attachment creates suffering because:
This mismatch between desire and reality is the root of dukkha.
Non-attachment means:
It is freedom, not emotional coldness.