Ted Gresham – April 2026 Bad Me Today I was ugly. My wife said so. She said I was acting ugly, I was ugly to my daughter, and I was being mean. Why? Because something gripped me this morning about her going off to church with my daughter. At first, I taught her better. She…
Ted Gresham – April 2026 My Vertiginous Life What the hell does that mean? It means dizzy, woozy, giddy, light-headed. It really means I vacillate between, “what the hell is going on…” to “Duhhh.” Thinking is not what it used to be. Time is a bastard that sneaks away before I can get anything done….
Ted Gresham – April 2026 Now about this guy named Jesus Christ He’s often called “Savior” or “Messiah” or whatever. To me the non-existent “son-of-god” is a pain in the ass. Once a year a holiday comes around called Easter. All the good Christians get dooded up and go to some church. For many it’s…
OK, most people think I’ve lost my mind. It’s mostly true, too. Why do you think that happened? Life. Living. Whatever. But today I’m talking about losing something else. Today, I’m talking about something else: weight. Today I weigh 270 pounds. You may think that’s pretty heavy, and it is. But in the past month…
Have you ever noticed those big iron wheels on the sides of steam engines? They are called flywheels and they serve a purpose. They provide a steady momentum to smooth out the clanking motion of the engine itself. This morning I was watching a little video about flywheels used in old factories on YouTube. (I…
Ted Gresham – July 2025 Last night I had a āta-dahā moment. I was lying in bed and for who knows what reason I started thinking about my friends the Cooks. A family moved in down on the highway. They lived in a mobile home placed beside an auto wrecking yard. The dad managed the…
How the hell will I get anything done if that damn clock keeps on zooming so fast it makes me dizzy? I mean, really. That little fucking clock down there on the bottom corner keeps clicking and clicking and clicking. There’s no sound, of course, just the incessant changing of numbers, reminding me that I…
Ted Gresham – July 2025 Where Have I Been? It’s a fair question to ask. Over the past several months, I’ve spent most of my time in this small house, navigating each day as best I can. There has been a lot of pain to contend with, and I’ve had to make a couple of…
Ted Greshsam, September 27, 2025 Hey, you want some coffee? A few weeks ago, my wife bought me a coffee pot that uses those little K-cups. It was a financially bad idea. Now I drink more coffee and it costs more per cup. Sucks, huh? As if you give a shit about my coffee. Something…
Ted Greshsam, September 11, 2025 Not related to anything else, but you know, it still bugs the shit out of me to put 2025 on my page as the year. What the fuck happened to all those years? Oh well, never mind. We continue to have a fucked up country. Watch all the news and…
In Buddhism, attachment does not mean love, affection, or caring about people. Instead, it refers to a very specific mental habit: clinging ā the tight, grasping insistence that things, people, or experiences must be a certain way for us to feel secure.
Buddhism teaches that this clinging is a major cause of dukkha (suffering), because everything is impermanent ā and trying to hold on tightly to what constantly changes inevitably leads to pain.
Attachment is:
Buddhism identifies four main types of attachment:
These forms of clinging keep us stuck in the cycle of suffering and rebirth (saį¹sÄra).
Attachment is not:
Buddhist teachers emphasize that you can love deeply without clinging. Love becomes suffering only when it turns into fear, control, or dependency.
As one source puts it:
āBuddhism does not ask you to stop holding. It asks you to stop squeezing.ā
Attachment creates suffering because:
This mismatch between desire and reality is the root of dukkha.
Non-attachment means:
It is freedom, not emotional coldness.
