Ted Gresham – April 2026 Now about this guy named Jesus Christ He’s often called “Savior” or “Messiah” or whatever. To me the non-existent “son-of-god” is a pain in the ass. Once a year a holiday comes around called Easter. All the good Christians get dooded up and go to some church. For many it’s…
Ted Gresham – July 2025 Where Have I Been? It’s a fair question to ask. Over the past several months, I’ve spent most of my time in this small house, navigating each day as best I can. There has been a lot of pain to contend with, and I’ve had to make a couple of…
In Buddhism, attachment does not mean love, affection, or caring about people. Instead, it refers to a very specific mental habit: clinging ā the tight, grasping insistence that things, people, or experiences must be a certain way for us to feel secure.
Buddhism teaches that this clinging is a major cause of dukkha (suffering), because everything is impermanent ā and trying to hold on tightly to what constantly changes inevitably leads to pain.
Attachment is:
Buddhism identifies four main types of attachment:
These forms of clinging keep us stuck in the cycle of suffering and rebirth (saį¹sÄra).
Attachment is not:
Buddhist teachers emphasize that you can love deeply without clinging. Love becomes suffering only when it turns into fear, control, or dependency.
As one source puts it:
āBuddhism does not ask you to stop holding. It asks you to stop squeezing.ā
Attachment creates suffering because:
This mismatch between desire and reality is the root of dukkha.
Non-attachment means:
It is freedom, not emotional coldness.